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Missed Birthdays

For one day in a year, I become selfish. I want to have everyone call me, think of me, send me the warmest of wishes and love. I want my friends and family to make effort when choosing their words (and gifts) around me, and I want to be the happiest person in the world. Yes, it’s my birthday and I want to be the center of attention!

Every year I say that I will not make a big deal out of it. I’m not that young anymore, I don’t have that extra money to spend on one party, I just don’t feel like making a big fuss. But than the day comes and my best friends are the first to call and ask “So where is the party?”…and I have to have an answer. This year, it was so impromptu, that I just bought couple of bottles of gin and fresh mint and made the best mojito party there is! 

Yet, the next day you start thinking who did not came/call/wished(singed) “Happy Birthday”. Did they forgot? Have I forgot to call them? Should I have had invited them anyway? Should I call them now? Eventually, time goes by and you forget about these questions.

However, the time comes when they have their own special day. These days, with the notifications, Facebook or Skype is hard to forget or ignore someone’s birthday, but when you are doing a huge project, thoroughly immersed in the work,  or are out of the country, or life(and it counter part) just halts you in your every-day tasks,  these things happen!

I wished so many belated birthdays to friends and family members in the past few months, people start to wonder if I’ve become forgetful or ignorant! And the birthdays I miss the most are the ones of the great people of the history of the world, when I read a book by a famous writer (Victor Hugo, 26th of Feb Les Misérables or Charles Dickens, 7th of FebOliver Twist) or listen to great music (Mozart-27th January, Bob Marley-6th Feb, Norah Jones- 30th March, Marvin Gaye- 2nd April) or watched a great movie or documentary for an artist, scientists, sportist etc. 

I’ve missed so many events, birthdays, celebrations and moments of leisure and fun. Just now , looking back, I can see the sacrifice I have made. Sometimes you have to ask yourself if it is worth it. But for this…for now…I think it is.

Something unusual

My daily routine is something I have been working on for years. I have made for myself morning and evening rituals, periods of the day when I would drink tea, or drink coffee, when I would eat lunch, call my parents and grandparents, walk my dog etc. Incorporating the time spent on work and study would fit always, as I have plan B and C for anything.

But this year I’ve decided to finish my studies as a transfer student, far faaar away from home. It took great deal of building up confidence, facing challenges and ex-professors, admin, people who said it was a waste of time, but I got through it all and stick with my idea for quite some time. So, my routine got a bit different since the beginning of this year. I wrote essays, edited, rewrote, searched scholarships, translated the documents and worked.

The last deadline for the last application was March 1st. I have worked so hard right until the deadline that I got lost the next week! Suddenly I had too much time on my hands and no to do lists for the day, the week even the month! And what happens when you have no to dos? You become depressed, you get stuck in your head, you make up the stories for the up-come of your work, your future, your past work, “What could I have done more? Should I have done this differently? Would they notice? Would they like me? “…. And the circle goes round and round.

But then, one day, you get an email telling you have your first acceptance! Unbelievable that is so soon, that much, that I forwarded the email to my family and my closes friends to ask them what it means! You see, my biggest problem is my lack of self-confidence. But once I get some recognition, I strive and reach higher then I would ever imagine before.

It was unusual to fall back from my routines and rituals for a whole month, but now it’s incredible unusual how easy it is for me to get back on track because of a motivation as little as an email!

Thank you University of San Francisco! You made my day, my week, my month and perhaps my year 🙂 I can now go to sleep knowing that I have many things to finish on my to-do list tomorrow 🙂 Good night everyone, thanks for reading 🙂  

Movie: Prisoners (2013)

This is not one of the “inspirational movies” review I give, because it’s not typical inspirational movie. This one is much more intensive, dramatic, disturbing, thrilling! It’s packed with award-winning actors, which makes you excited to watch it, because you expect amazing acting and performances for an award-winning movie.

The main character is played by Hugh Jackman, a father who teaches his family to be ready for disasters, keeping them safe and sound. But when visiting friends for Thanksgiving, his daughter Anna goes missing and he losses his mind in trying to find her. His wife cannot believe what happened, because he always made them feel protected and safe.

That’s when the police detective Loki, played by Jake Gyllenhaal, steps in, as the detective who solved every crime and gets the results fast. This time, he doesn’t get anything fast. The movie is over 2 hours long and he loses his tracks few times.

Their lead is the driver of an RV, who turns out to be mentally challenged, and released of charges, yet the concerned father believes this guy knows something. The torture shown is very disturbing. The performances of Viola Davis and Terrence Howard, the parents of the other girl who went missing along with Anna, seeing the kidnapped man, played by Paul Dano, are incredibly realistic as well. Makes you feel the pain and makes you sick!

 

The story is real. Children get kidnapped and missing every day. The characters with their extremes, although disturbing, are very true. There is nothing that a parent won’t do, to get his child back. And, on the other hand, there is nothing more courageous than a child who wants to go home.

Overall, I loved the performances. It’s no secret that these actors are great! Even the ones that get a minor roles and not much screen time, like Viola Davis or Melissa Leo, make the movie more intense. The movie could have been more edited at some places and by the end much was left for the imagination, a lot of the story was unfinished, but the point was made.

You have to watch this movie for the great performances. Close your eyes if you can’t get through the torture and sickening parts, but watch the rest. The actors really gave it all!

Where’s my daughter? Where’s my daughter! Every day she’s wondering why I’m not there, me! Not you!

Be happy with what you already have and really OWN what you HAVE

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Although I do not live in the US, and do not have tradition to celebrate Thanksgiving on this day, I can’t help but feel the excitement over this holiday from the Internet. In my country, we have a day, similar to Thanksgiving, where we ask for forgiveness and show our appreciation to the people in our lives. However, I do not believe in having just one day like this. We should be thankful for what we have, and who we have in our lives EVERYDAY! 

I am especially concerned about the possibility of not-being thankful for the people we have in our lives already, and dismissing them if they do something wrong, or if they change in any way. It’s the mentality of our new generation, to “buy it new” when the old one is not working, instead of trying to fix and upgrade what we already have

Yes, I am talking about broken relationships with family, friends, partners, colleagues, neighbors. The relationships we have forgotten of; the family we do not like because of their religious or political beliefs; the neighbors we do not say Hi to and hide from because they smell of Sauerkraut every time we see them; or the friends that became depressed since they got fired and make us depressed when we talk to them.

You can have many people in your life, I’m not talking about not being friendly or communicative to others. No, I’m talking about cherishing the ones you already have in your life! I’m talking about understanding where they come from, and helping them in their journey. I’m talking about not giving up on the ones who feel lost or confused. I’m talking about LOVE! Unconditional love to everyone that are a part of your life!

So often we say “Oh, we are not in touch anymore, I don’t know what happened, but she just lost her way and I can’t be around people who are lost!” But we don’t know the whole story. We don’t try to help. We don’t remember all the good times and make sure they remember it as well. Sometimes, people need to hear the positive. Sometimes, all we need to do is smile! Sometimes, all people need is LOVE!

So, I beg you, at least today, don’t dismiss your grandparents, or your aunts and uncles sitting at your Thanksgiving table; don’t roll your eyes when they ask you questions you don’t want to hear; don’t be nervous or wishing you were sitting with someone else in that moment. LOVE YOUR FAMILY and FRIENDS and the ones who are spending their time with you. Don’t give up on them, because, if it was the other way around, you wouldn’t want them to give up on you!

 

I read this somewhere on Facebook, and I thought it would fit in this post. I hope you’ll be inspired and more thankful for the people in your life today!

Brad Pitt about his wife:

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My wife got sick. She was constantly nervous because of problems at work, personal life, her failures and children. She lost 30 pounds and weighted about 90 pounds. She got very skinny and was constantly crying. She was not a happy woman. She had suffered from continuing headaches, heart pain and jammed nerves in her back and ribs. She did not sleep well, falling asleep only in the mornings and got tired very quickly during the day. Our relationship was on the verge of a break up. Her beauty was leaving her somewhere, she had bags under her eyes, she was poking her head, and stopped taking care of herself. She refused to shoot the films and rejected any role. I lost hope and thought that we’ll get divorced soon… But then I decided to act. After all I’ve got the most beautiful woman on earth. She is the idol of more than half of men and women on earth, and I was the one allowed to fall asleep next to her and to hug her. I began to shower her with flowers, kisses and compliments. I surprised and pleased her every minute. I gave her a lot of gifts and lived just for her. I spoke in public only about her. I incorporated all themes in her direction. I praised her in front of her own and our mutual friends. You won’t believe it, but she blossomed. She became better. She gained weight, was no longer nervous and loved me even more than ever. I had no clue that she CAN love that much.

And then I realized one thing: the woman is the reflection of her man.

If you love her to the point of madness, she will become it.

Brad Pitt